The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? "I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve."
The human heart is such a fickle entity. Within the heart are emotions that range from anger to happiness. Its insane how our emotions can dictate our future. Using wisdom and discernment can help us make good decisions regarding our future. Leading with our heart will not.
I had a homegirl of mine who was dealing with an ill breakup. Let's call her *Ruth. Now, Ruth was dating a Jewish man, knowing that their relationship would never grow. See, Ruth was a Christian, and this man was not. Let's call this man *Bobby. Now, Bobby was open with Ruth, telling her that he was in various open relationships with other women but wanted to marry Ruth. However, he never displayed his loyalty or commitment to Ruth.
The whole time, he remains a steady friend for years but blatantly disrespects her by crossing the line with her. I don't know about you, but if I were in this situation it would be plain and simple. Do not let the heart make decisions for you. Because in your heart, you will believe that because Bobby was there for you in hurtful times that he "cares". But this man does not! He has shown Ruth relentlessly how he could care less about their friendship and would want to sabotage it with a night of pleasure by crossing the line. And he's open about sleeping with other women. And on top of that, he is Jewish.
1. Unequally yoked.
2. Blatantly disrespectful.
4. Sexually immoral.
Let's go over some scripture:
2 Corinthians 6:14, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
Absolutely, nothing! Maybe you both can agree that Drake is as soft as a baby's bottom or that society is real messed up, but beyond the obvious, let that fool go!
Matthew 15: 8 "These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me."
Yeah, uhm, okay well this displays that people can "say" things to you that may seem respectful but it is just them SAYING these things. They are not displaying their actions alongside it. Unfortunately, that is NOT enough.
Proverbs 12:3 "A man cannot be established through wickedness, but the righteous cannot be uprooted."
Manipulation is not the way to go. The Lord will overthrow the wicked and the righteous will be firm in ground (see Proverbs 12:7). Just stay away from these fools.
Ephesians 5:3 "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people."
He said it! It is IMPROPER for His holy people. He considers those saved, His children, His first loves, His holy people. So in order for us to continue living holy, let's not even entertain that the thought or mess. That comes with the renewing of the mind.
All I can say is this. Do NOT let your EMOTIONS run you. I literally had an "emotional" day yesterday...for WHAT? I don't know! But I admitted to God, at 2AM, that I was clearly acting up, and repented for acting like a baby. It's not worth it. It is not worth losing sleep off of. It's honestly, what you're filling your mind with.
Well loves, be safe, stay cool, and be amazing siblings in Christ.
One LOVE. <3